At the end of the day, its just a communication problem

I've gotten into the habit of watching myself interact with other people. No, I don't have a personality disorder or anything that esoteric.

Its more about being aware of my reaction (physical and emotional) to what the person is saying.

I confess, it makes me less attentive to what the person is saying because I'm trying to figure out what my self thinks about it or how myself is processing the situation.

I'm kind of trying to figure out what makes me tick. Which buttons elicit the different range of human emotions and characters. (ok, this is wrong, character isn't a unit, it consists of several units interacting with each other)

But sometimes, its about reading the other person. When I go see a movie with a friend, I find myself watching the other person's reaction to the movie, rather than my reaction to the movie or just mindlessly(?) watching the movie.

Hmmm...before I started writing, I had gone through this series of thoughts and my conclusion was, "at the end of the day, its just a communication problem" hence the title of this post. But I can't seem to remember how it all fits together :(

I know character changes based on the situation, but can you pin down someone's "generalized" character? how often does someone have to flake out before you declare the person a flake? how much does someone have to say and how often, before you declare the person egotistic? This is really far from what I wanted this post to be about....best to stop while I'm still aware of this.